Total Happiness - Why An Individual Cannot Achieve It

It is quite obvious to witness an individual who is always looking at other than the right way to seek for total happiness. The right way is, there is no other way to total happiness, and total happiness is the only way.

That means, total happiness is growing inside each individual, and there, is the starting point for the individual to expand and extend this wonderful feeling, glowing outside himself or herself.

Even after knowing this vital and valuable information, there is still an individual continuously seeking for total happiness, elsewhere, everywhere, anywhere, no where, or other places as a way that is away from the correct way to total happiness.

While total happiness is readily available inside this individual, he or she is still facing in other directions outside, farther from the chance of obtaining genuine total happiness.

While seeking for total happiness, this individual attempts to strive. His or her opinion is that striving seems a sure way to obtain true total happiness. That means, the individual striving for total happiness requires any, a combination, or all of these: an immense quantum leap forward, a really hard work, a large amount of energy, a powerful pervasive force, and a strong struggling movement, or some efforts that are more difficult than these.

Yet, all these are unnecessary. The facts remain that an individual can obtain total happiness, instantly and immediately, now and here, at will, by simply making a decision to be totally happy, thus opting to choose total happiness, as a natural preference in this life.

Foregoing this fact, and instead pursuing for a fiction or a falsehood, this individual begins to wonder as a wanderer in this life by asking why is it so hard to achieve total happiness, especially at the times when this feeling is needed the most? After which, his or her pursuit consists of more struggles to seek for total happiness at various places, where total happiness does not exists nor being presence.

It is then extremely hard for this individual to achieve total happiness, because realize it or not, this individual is:

01) On the wrong path where total happiness is not available,

02) Feels like he or she must first climb a virtual or real mountain before actually achieving total happiness,

03) Moving on the correct path but become preoccupied on some other irrelevant activities, truly out of focus,

04) Just like wanting to be at a port in the mainland but he or she simply proceed into the sea during violent storms and against a clear vibrant tsunami.

In the end, this is the individual who feels he or she cannot obtain total happiness, because instead of being in charge of him self or her self, the individual lives a life in accordance to the swings of his or her incessant and spontaneous moods. This is an accepted impossibility.

The individual knows that there is a power within him or her. In addition he or she knows the possibility of accomplishing any goal toward total happiness, yet he or she does not proceed to know the door to total happiness. Yes, there is no other door to total happiness, and total happiness is the only door.

Even after knowing this information, and being the key holder to the door toward total happiness, yet the individual does not even begin to move and easily opening the door.

Yes, the individual knows the benefits of total happiness to him or her in this precious life. Be totally happy and being in total happiness first, then enjoys the benefits as the inevitable outcome of such a wonderful feeling. Yet the individual does not decide to be totally happy nor being in total happiness first.

Instead the individual proceeds to seek elsewhere, no where, anywhere, and everywhere for total happiness. Therefore, ultimately the individual becomes tired of searching and researching, despite total happiness is always available, always here, within the sanubari in his or her own heart.

This individual is seen in his or her attempts to obtain total happiness by doing exercises, trying to improve his or her mood swings, pretend to attain certain pleasure by eating chocolate, or even listening to music, or establishing a new friendship, pursuing to falling in love again, or joining an association, trying to developing a new hobby, or learning a new skill, go out of the way in helping others to find happiness that he or she cannot even find it himself or herself, and stoop low in faking a smile, or project a laughter, with the thinking that by doing so first, he or she can achieve authentic total happiness.

The facts remain that total happiness is independent. Yes, total happiness is not dependent upon a subject or an individual; an object or a position; a context that includes a circumstances, a condition, an event, a happenstance, or a situation.

For as long as this individual is seeking total happiness by doing some activities to obtain it, he or she can never obtain it.

Should an individual hajat for total happiness, then he or she can obtain total happiness, instantly and immediately, by willing to make a decision to be totally happy, and being in total happiness, now and here. In fact he or she is able to sustain total happiness by opting to choose it, as a natural preference throughout his or her life.

Zubli Zainordin is a professional public communicator. An established author in Malaysia, who has published 4 books in his native language. He is presently authoring - the wisdom of total happiness - for the English speaking market.

Zubli Zainordin is an Expert Ezine@rticles Author. Also, a consultant for the national book authoring project. Zubli Zainordin earned a M. Sc. in Communication - Radio/Television/Film from Indiana State University (Terre Haute, Indiana, USA), Diploma in Mass Communication from University Technology MARA, and Diploma in Translation - Technical and Science, from the National Translation Institute.

As a thinker, Zubli Zainordin shares a unique view so that you may prefer to review your inner and outer self, then shall you preview your entire life with a total view. You shall want to benefit from his special approach to subjects pertaining to total life and total success. He is recognized as a pioneer, the arts and science of total success. He has prepared: Who am I? - the answer to ultimately know you - a free special report for you. Let's communicate.

In Pursuit Of Happiness

A curious thing can happen when we discover a sudden change in personal circumstances such as a life threatening experience or a forced sudden and dramatic transformation in life style due to physical or economic circumstances. Some of these people who, be they relatives, friends, neighbours or people we hear about in the mass media, may have been living together, in an ongoing state of irritation with conflict and anger on virtually every issue surrounding their life together, can suddenly make dramatic shifts, quite readily, in their consciousness. What became a relationship consistently of conflict or anger that had suffocated their love and happiness for many years disappears, with their disagreements fading away and becoming insignificant and their love for one another, OR LIFE IT SELF, re-emerges as though it had never left.
What happens to cause this change of heart?

Quite simply, we don't know exactly how this sudden shift occurs or even when this kind of shift will occur. We do know that they exist and that they can and do occur. A sudden shift in awareness can occur in any area of human life that has to do with how we feel. Remember when you were much younger you probably believed in perhaps Fairies or fairy story characters or perhaps a more personalised manifestation such as a monster. At some point you realised what had been very real to you no longer existed as part of your reality. What was it that made you realise that these things were no longer real and that they or it, had only existed in your own mind? Why, at that particular time did this new level of understanding happen? Most of us go through these shifts in life. The imagined characters that seem real when we are young are predictable shifts but do vary greatly when the shift in our consciousness occurs. People have moments of autonomy, if only fleeting. Gaining the ability to achieve greater periods of sustained self-sufficiency is desirable as it enables you to become a whole person and enriched.

Shifts occur when we look at the same set of facts or scenario in a new way producing another insight or understanding.

Our ultimate concern or simply put our goal be it a shift or continuity or not, is what dictates control of our life and as a consequence our happiness. That ultimate concern determines other values, beliefs, associated goals, feelings, and actions.

When we make other people's approval our ultimate concern, then we make them our dominant force. We give up control of our lives and happiness. Seek your own approval not theirs. Let everyone have primary responsibility for his or her own happiness. Confusing "means" with "ends." It's not that having financial or career success cannot contribute to happiness. They obviously can contribute. But if one makes these means to happiness their end goals, then they become so focused upon the means that they may lose sight of the end happiness.

We do not have one ultimate concern, as most of us are far too diverse or disorganised or confused to be dedicated to what our most important value is or may be. We all owe allegiances to several valued concerns that constantly conflict with one another sometimes to our knowledge and at other times are simply not considered.

We have inner scuffles between our desires for success, love, friendship, security, fun, and contentment. Lack of integration among our higher values underlies much of our regular confusion and anxiety.

Some people are afraid that if they make their own happiness a primary goal in life, they will become, too self-indulgent. Happiness is probably the only human state that measures our overall physical and mental well being. It results from harmonising among our inner parts. We cannot deny important parts of ourselves and be fully happy. Happiness and love go hand-in-hand. Loving someone means we value his or her happiness. When we feel love, we feel happy, even if the love is for an object, an activity, or a person.

Responsibility follows control, so it follows that we are have greatest responsibility for our own happiness.

Why should someone else be more responsible for my happiness then I am-or vice-versa?

Have you ever been in a situation where no one will say what they really want and people are trying to make sure they please the other(s)? For example in trying to decide which restaurant to go to, one says,

"Where do you fancy to eating?"

"I don't care; what do you want to eat?"

This continues until both people become thoroughly frustrated. Is it not better if both people say what they want while considering the other's wishes?

How do you feel about other people being primarily in charge of your happiness?

How happy would you be if you sacrificed what you wanted so that you can give it up to someone else?

Do you feel more like doing something when you are doing it because you think you "should" or because you think it will make you happy?

Happiness is a moment-by-moment choice that each of us make. We must first choose to be happy and then make a commitment to that choice without changing anything in your life except your relationship with your own thinking. Do not confuse a commitment to happiness with a way to make life better in some way. This may seem strange at first but I am sure you can recall changes in your circumstances that have not lead to an improved level of happiness. Earning additional money, solving a problem, acquiring qualifications does not produce happiness. Happiness exists independently of your circumstances. Happiness is a feeling you can learn to live in.

Everything in your life is a consequence of the way you relate to your thinking. Commitment is an obligation and makes change much easier by removing uncertainty and anxiety and provides the freedom to let go of concerns as it fosters hope. Without commitment success in any venture is difficult. If you are dieting, stopping smoking, studying, starting a project or deciding to be happy, commitment is an important step. There is a great deal in life that is beyond your control. External circumstances touch us all, illness, accidents, other people's reactions and their choices, all impact upon us. Despite all this you can make a choice regardless of what happens to be happy unconditionally. Attaching happiness to an outcome will simply create the same mental process to each specific outcome. Believing that happiness will come once you are married then leads on for example to being happy once you have children which then creates new circumstances to develop a new desire to obtain happiness having achieved the goal. For example, perhaps when your children pass certain stages in life such as the terrible two's/ starting nursery/primary/secondary/sixth form/University/have a job/left home/get married is out the way, happiness will evolve and then you will be happy once you have enough money to meet the growing family needs. Believing that by solving our problems or improving our relationships will create contentment but this means that our happiness must be postponed until some future time when the preconditions are met. You may believe that you will one day arrive at a place, happiness but it will not be sustained without the decision to be happy. There is no way to happiness as happiness is the way if you are committed to the decision.

Your commitment to happiness itself should let go of all your preconditions. No matter how difficult it seems learn and practice the mental processes that will lead to happiness. Being happy isn't always easy. It can be one of the great challenges in life. Mature and take responsibility for your own happiness - right now. Understanding is the common sense of knowing something in the here and now and that our life experience comes from the inside out and not from the outside in.

You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself. Galileo

Focus on what you have and not on what you may lack. Commitment is the first step to bringing the future to the present.

The author claims no credentials or special qualifications, other than a compulsion to write what he cares about. The author's life has been marked by a generosity of spirit, by the vitality of his friendships, and by his personal struggles.