Total Happiness - Why An Individual Cannot Achieve It

It is quite obvious to witness an individual who is always looking at other than the right way to seek for total happiness. The right way is, there is no other way to total happiness, and total happiness is the only way.

That means, total happiness is growing inside each individual, and there, is the starting point for the individual to expand and extend this wonderful feeling, glowing outside himself or herself.

Even after knowing this vital and valuable information, there is still an individual continuously seeking for total happiness, elsewhere, everywhere, anywhere, no where, or other places as a way that is away from the correct way to total happiness.

While total happiness is readily available inside this individual, he or she is still facing in other directions outside, farther from the chance of obtaining genuine total happiness.

While seeking for total happiness, this individual attempts to strive. His or her opinion is that striving seems a sure way to obtain true total happiness. That means, the individual striving for total happiness requires any, a combination, or all of these: an immense quantum leap forward, a really hard work, a large amount of energy, a powerful pervasive force, and a strong struggling movement, or some efforts that are more difficult than these.

Yet, all these are unnecessary. The facts remain that an individual can obtain total happiness, instantly and immediately, now and here, at will, by simply making a decision to be totally happy, thus opting to choose total happiness, as a natural preference in this life.

Foregoing this fact, and instead pursuing for a fiction or a falsehood, this individual begins to wonder as a wanderer in this life by asking why is it so hard to achieve total happiness, especially at the times when this feeling is needed the most? After which, his or her pursuit consists of more struggles to seek for total happiness at various places, where total happiness does not exists nor being presence.

It is then extremely hard for this individual to achieve total happiness, because realize it or not, this individual is:

01) On the wrong path where total happiness is not available,

02) Feels like he or she must first climb a virtual or real mountain before actually achieving total happiness,

03) Moving on the correct path but become preoccupied on some other irrelevant activities, truly out of focus,

04) Just like wanting to be at a port in the mainland but he or she simply proceed into the sea during violent storms and against a clear vibrant tsunami.

In the end, this is the individual who feels he or she cannot obtain total happiness, because instead of being in charge of him self or her self, the individual lives a life in accordance to the swings of his or her incessant and spontaneous moods. This is an accepted impossibility.

The individual knows that there is a power within him or her. In addition he or she knows the possibility of accomplishing any goal toward total happiness, yet he or she does not proceed to know the door to total happiness. Yes, there is no other door to total happiness, and total happiness is the only door.

Even after knowing this information, and being the key holder to the door toward total happiness, yet the individual does not even begin to move and easily opening the door.

Yes, the individual knows the benefits of total happiness to him or her in this precious life. Be totally happy and being in total happiness first, then enjoys the benefits as the inevitable outcome of such a wonderful feeling. Yet the individual does not decide to be totally happy nor being in total happiness first.

Instead the individual proceeds to seek elsewhere, no where, anywhere, and everywhere for total happiness. Therefore, ultimately the individual becomes tired of searching and researching, despite total happiness is always available, always here, within the sanubari in his or her own heart.

This individual is seen in his or her attempts to obtain total happiness by doing exercises, trying to improve his or her mood swings, pretend to attain certain pleasure by eating chocolate, or even listening to music, or establishing a new friendship, pursuing to falling in love again, or joining an association, trying to developing a new hobby, or learning a new skill, go out of the way in helping others to find happiness that he or she cannot even find it himself or herself, and stoop low in faking a smile, or project a laughter, with the thinking that by doing so first, he or she can achieve authentic total happiness.

The facts remain that total happiness is independent. Yes, total happiness is not dependent upon a subject or an individual; an object or a position; a context that includes a circumstances, a condition, an event, a happenstance, or a situation.

For as long as this individual is seeking total happiness by doing some activities to obtain it, he or she can never obtain it.

Should an individual hajat for total happiness, then he or she can obtain total happiness, instantly and immediately, by willing to make a decision to be totally happy, and being in total happiness, now and here. In fact he or she is able to sustain total happiness by opting to choose it, as a natural preference throughout his or her life.

Zubli Zainordin is a professional public communicator. An established author in Malaysia, who has published 4 books in his native language. He is presently authoring - the wisdom of total happiness - for the English speaking market.

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In Pursuit Of Happiness

A curious thing can happen when we discover a sudden change in personal circumstances such as a life threatening experience or a forced sudden and dramatic transformation in life style due to physical or economic circumstances. Some of these people who, be they relatives, friends, neighbours or people we hear about in the mass media, may have been living together, in an ongoing state of irritation with conflict and anger on virtually every issue surrounding their life together, can suddenly make dramatic shifts, quite readily, in their consciousness. What became a relationship consistently of conflict or anger that had suffocated their love and happiness for many years disappears, with their disagreements fading away and becoming insignificant and their love for one another, OR LIFE IT SELF, re-emerges as though it had never left.
What happens to cause this change of heart?

Quite simply, we don't know exactly how this sudden shift occurs or even when this kind of shift will occur. We do know that they exist and that they can and do occur. A sudden shift in awareness can occur in any area of human life that has to do with how we feel. Remember when you were much younger you probably believed in perhaps Fairies or fairy story characters or perhaps a more personalised manifestation such as a monster. At some point you realised what had been very real to you no longer existed as part of your reality. What was it that made you realise that these things were no longer real and that they or it, had only existed in your own mind? Why, at that particular time did this new level of understanding happen? Most of us go through these shifts in life. The imagined characters that seem real when we are young are predictable shifts but do vary greatly when the shift in our consciousness occurs. People have moments of autonomy, if only fleeting. Gaining the ability to achieve greater periods of sustained self-sufficiency is desirable as it enables you to become a whole person and enriched.

Shifts occur when we look at the same set of facts or scenario in a new way producing another insight or understanding.

Our ultimate concern or simply put our goal be it a shift or continuity or not, is what dictates control of our life and as a consequence our happiness. That ultimate concern determines other values, beliefs, associated goals, feelings, and actions.

When we make other people's approval our ultimate concern, then we make them our dominant force. We give up control of our lives and happiness. Seek your own approval not theirs. Let everyone have primary responsibility for his or her own happiness. Confusing "means" with "ends." It's not that having financial or career success cannot contribute to happiness. They obviously can contribute. But if one makes these means to happiness their end goals, then they become so focused upon the means that they may lose sight of the end happiness.

We do not have one ultimate concern, as most of us are far too diverse or disorganised or confused to be dedicated to what our most important value is or may be. We all owe allegiances to several valued concerns that constantly conflict with one another sometimes to our knowledge and at other times are simply not considered.

We have inner scuffles between our desires for success, love, friendship, security, fun, and contentment. Lack of integration among our higher values underlies much of our regular confusion and anxiety.

Some people are afraid that if they make their own happiness a primary goal in life, they will become, too self-indulgent. Happiness is probably the only human state that measures our overall physical and mental well being. It results from harmonising among our inner parts. We cannot deny important parts of ourselves and be fully happy. Happiness and love go hand-in-hand. Loving someone means we value his or her happiness. When we feel love, we feel happy, even if the love is for an object, an activity, or a person.

Responsibility follows control, so it follows that we are have greatest responsibility for our own happiness.

Why should someone else be more responsible for my happiness then I am-or vice-versa?

Have you ever been in a situation where no one will say what they really want and people are trying to make sure they please the other(s)? For example in trying to decide which restaurant to go to, one says,

"Where do you fancy to eating?"

"I don't care; what do you want to eat?"

This continues until both people become thoroughly frustrated. Is it not better if both people say what they want while considering the other's wishes?

How do you feel about other people being primarily in charge of your happiness?

How happy would you be if you sacrificed what you wanted so that you can give it up to someone else?

Do you feel more like doing something when you are doing it because you think you "should" or because you think it will make you happy?

Happiness is a moment-by-moment choice that each of us make. We must first choose to be happy and then make a commitment to that choice without changing anything in your life except your relationship with your own thinking. Do not confuse a commitment to happiness with a way to make life better in some way. This may seem strange at first but I am sure you can recall changes in your circumstances that have not lead to an improved level of happiness. Earning additional money, solving a problem, acquiring qualifications does not produce happiness. Happiness exists independently of your circumstances. Happiness is a feeling you can learn to live in.

Everything in your life is a consequence of the way you relate to your thinking. Commitment is an obligation and makes change much easier by removing uncertainty and anxiety and provides the freedom to let go of concerns as it fosters hope. Without commitment success in any venture is difficult. If you are dieting, stopping smoking, studying, starting a project or deciding to be happy, commitment is an important step. There is a great deal in life that is beyond your control. External circumstances touch us all, illness, accidents, other people's reactions and their choices, all impact upon us. Despite all this you can make a choice regardless of what happens to be happy unconditionally. Attaching happiness to an outcome will simply create the same mental process to each specific outcome. Believing that happiness will come once you are married then leads on for example to being happy once you have children which then creates new circumstances to develop a new desire to obtain happiness having achieved the goal. For example, perhaps when your children pass certain stages in life such as the terrible two's/ starting nursery/primary/secondary/sixth form/University/have a job/left home/get married is out the way, happiness will evolve and then you will be happy once you have enough money to meet the growing family needs. Believing that by solving our problems or improving our relationships will create contentment but this means that our happiness must be postponed until some future time when the preconditions are met. You may believe that you will one day arrive at a place, happiness but it will not be sustained without the decision to be happy. There is no way to happiness as happiness is the way if you are committed to the decision.

Your commitment to happiness itself should let go of all your preconditions. No matter how difficult it seems learn and practice the mental processes that will lead to happiness. Being happy isn't always easy. It can be one of the great challenges in life. Mature and take responsibility for your own happiness - right now. Understanding is the common sense of knowing something in the here and now and that our life experience comes from the inside out and not from the outside in.

You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself. Galileo

Focus on what you have and not on what you may lack. Commitment is the first step to bringing the future to the present.

The author claims no credentials or special qualifications, other than a compulsion to write what he cares about. The author's life has been marked by a generosity of spirit, by the vitality of his friendships, and by his personal struggles.

Is There A Substitute For Happiness?

An Australian survey found that 77% of the people would prefer to be happy than wealthy. This begs the question: Were the wealthy people the ones who preferred to be happy rather than wealthy or the happy people those who are poor and do not want to lose their happiness by becoming wealthy.

The person who made mention of the article was promoting her forthcoming lecture about how to be happy. It was partly her claim that happiness is the next step after having achieved a degree of wealth. Basically she was saying that regardless of everything else the one thing human beings craved was happiness.

This woman went on to further claim that happiness itself was not the be all, to end all, because there were more important ideals in life like self-examination and then understanding the process of striving. The one thing people really did not need to do was strive for happiness because once you become happy, life suddenly becomes meaningless. There is nothing to live for any more. Effectively, she appeared to be saying, "Happiness is a state of nothingness where you become one with the nothing and have no need to exist anymore."

Personally, I have to disagree with this woman. Not because I have a different philosophy in life, but because I have obviously had a different experience in life. You see I am happy, but I am not nothing and I am have not ceased to exist. The reason I am happy is that having found out where happiness exists and I know how to live in happiness. I can enjoy life all the more without having to strive for something that I am not able to find.

That woman did not know what happiness was. She had not found happiness. She only has some philosophy which is nothing more than a reflection of her own sadness which she wants other people to come and participate in. It is like striving after wind, or like a dog trying to catch its tail and being having to be content with the fact it will always fail.

Contentment is like happiness in a way. But contentment is not happiness, because happiness is more active and energized than contentment. Only there is not a sense of urgency associated with happiness. What I experience is joy. A dynamic that adds spark to my day. Also I experience peace and another warm feeling that bathes my soul.

It is true that I am not striving anymore to find happiness. And it is true that I am more of the "live and let live" type. But it is also true that life is an adventure for me. Every day is a new day. Every day is a fun day. There is no need to deny myself pleasures any more, because I find pleasure in whatever I do. This is happiness. Happiness is not being in a state of nothingness. It is a feeling admittedly. It is a feeling of being at peace and having a love for all things that are good. But it is also energized with joy.

The suggestion that we cannot be happy and have a purpose or any meaning in our lives could only come from person who has not experienced true happiness. You see, the lecturer whom I am talking about claims happiness can only be a by product of a good life within a good society. However, I know happiness once found is real in any society. You or anybody else are able to experience the feelings of euphoria and bliss and inner warmth, if you truly desire to know the One who gives it.

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Happy First

What is it that we are so afraid of? Why won't we let go?

A shark cannot rest, it cannot stop swimming or it will die, it will drown.

Humanity seems to be acting in the same manner. It is though we are running for our lives. We are being chased and if we stop we will die.

There is an urgency to get somewhere, anywhere, and we do not know what to look for or where, but it is always out there, somewhere.

Unknowingly we have left the place that we are looking for. From the inner peace that we experienced so long ago as children and as the person we once were. We seem to have lost our way and are running just for the sake of running. It is as though we are in a cattle stampede. One starts running and we are following blindly.

What happened to the peace, the serenity and joy of just being, what happened to our innocence? Somewhere along the way we believe that we have lost it, and that we cannot have it again. Someone told us to run and we haven't stopped.

The industrial revolution has pushed us forward in a frenzy to acquire things, the latest is always best, always desirable and it is the carrot that moves us beyond our means, away from what we really desire.

It has taken us away from our natural ability to be at peace, to be happy and content. 'Things,' have promised us happiness, but we do not feel happy when we have them. There is always a promise of happiness but never delivery. Things may be symbols of our happiness but they do not bring the promise with them, because there is another thing dancing in the shadows, calling to us, beckoning, luring us from one thing to another.

We are so far gone that we now believe that we cannot be happy unless we have a thing. We have forgotten how to be happy naturally without being stimulated. We have been told that we cannot go backwards; we cannot go back to the way it was before because we would not have our things.

This is one of the greatest lies that have been passed on from one generation to another. Happiness is where you find it we are told, and this is absolute true if we understand that we can find happiness anywhere if we are happy first. The thought of being happy brings happiness into our lives. Happiness comes from within and is not put upon us by things.

Unhappiness is created from the thought that we need something to be happy and this unhappiness comes from the very things that we are depending on to bring us happiness.

If illness, accidents, sorrow, suffering, lack and loneliness comes from an error in thought, then only the thought has to be changed in order to achieve the happiness, and once our basic needs are met, there is only room for happiness. When thoughts turn towards wants then they turn away from comforting human emotion, natural love, joy, pleasure, contentment and belonging. The simpler life is the closest we get to true happiness, because we become focused on it, it is what we think about and all thought becomes manifested in our experience.

"I can't go back, I won't, I worked too hard to get where I am and what I have; I won't live in a cave.

If all we really want is to be happy, why would we not live in a cave and live simply if it brings us back to happy. If we are heading in a direction that leads away from happiness, why do we keep going there? Is it that we are happy to be unhappy or that happiness does not really exist except in our thoughts? Is it that we believe that happiness does not last, so why pursue it? What is it that we do with the butterfly once we catch it? Is the happiness found in catching the butterfly or letting it go once we have been there, or is it both? Can we experience happiness without experiencing all its opposites? Is the joy of letting go a precept in experiencing happiness once we have found it? Must we turn away from happiness so that we may find it later? If we are happy and remain that way, will we forget what it means to be happy?

All of our experiences are this way, they are cyclical, and we cannot know what we have or experience it until we no longer have it. We must move away from it so that we can come back to it. So if living our complicated lives is not bringing the happiness that we choose, is it because we forgot what it is or are we now ready to return to it?

Is it that we are running from something or is it that we are now running towards it? The trip will stop when we know that we already have what we desire, we simply need to choose it. Happiness, joy, fulfillment, belonging are things that we do not have to look for. They are what we are naturally and we simply have moved our thoughts away from them.

Our things, our toys are symbols, but they are not symbols of happiness, they are symbols of trying to be happy. They are symbols that we have moved away from what we already have, what we know. In trying to make our lives easier so that we have "time," to be happy and enjoy our lives we have created less time to be happy. Happy is scheduled for events and things and then we are too tired. To numb our loss of the sense of happiness we drug ourselves so that we don't have to feel anything.

The truth is and always has been that we can be happy without "things," or doing anything. The sacrifice is that we have to give up on the notion that we need anything and we must be prepared to give up things that do not demonstrate our happiness. Happiness comes as quickly as thinking about it. Be happy first then go out and do things that represent happy to you. Happiness comes in the silent moments between events, when there is nothing left to do, when we have given up on finding it, and when we have done everything else. When we have given up on the notion that we have to find it, it finds us.

I don't know anyone that is happy all the time or even most of the time. I think happiness must be dessert. We have to go through the main course to find it. If dessert was the main course we would still move away from it once we had finished or had enough of it.

I believe that we can be happy all the time, but not experience it. As we get involved in doing the happy things we forget that we are happy until it enters our mind that we are happy. Too much happiness or dessert becomes irritating and mundane, like sex, you got to move away from it in order to appreciate it and be grateful for the times that you are experiencing it.

An emotion that comes from happiness is contentment, which is not as intense. But even contentment as happiness must be recycled. Life without extremes is none life. Life moves in waves and begins on the edge of all our emotions. Once you hand gets used to being in warm water, it is no longer appreciated as warm until you pull it out.

Once we let go of the thought that we will not longer experience happiness, then we will have time to focus on simply experiencing this emotion and it will be drawn into our lives. We won't have to do things to find it. Stop running, move away from the crowd, simplify your life become aware of your environment, learn to appreciate what is already around you and happiness will enter your thoughts always. Find the beauty in the simple rock, a blade of grass, or the people around you. You have created them, they are your wonders, and you brought them to you as opportunities to experience happiness.

Roy E. Klienwachter is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. A student of NLP, an ordained minister, New Age Light Worker and Teacher. Roy has written and published seven ebooks on New Age wisdom and a new book coming out in late 2005 in paper form. Roy's books are thought provoking and designed to empower you to take responsibility for your life and what you create. His books and articles are written in the simplicity and eloquence of Zen wisdom.

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Money Does Not Buy Happiness, Contentment Does

Are you unhappy and just keep thinking if I could earn a bit more money everything would be fine? Tired of hearing the saying "money can't buy happiness"? I wish I could tell you that I am going to tell you that money can buy happiness, everyone else is wrong, but I can't. What I can tell you is that if you find contentment with what you have now when more money shows up it does help increase happiness. But first you must find the contentment.

When you are content money is cool, but not the end all be all. You spend differently, you invest differently. It is not about impressing others or gathering things. Don't get me wrong, money and things are cool, but when you are content you operate from a different place. You don't need to impress others or have more because you are happy with what you have. So your decisions on what to do with money come from a different place. According to Tom Stanley author of Stop Acting Rich a better indicator of happiness comes not from more income but on living on less than you make. I would guess that much of that has to do with those that live on less than they make are more content with life and thus spend money differently.

So what is contentment?

I consider contentment to be:

· Loving who you are today

· Loving what you have today

· Loving what you do today

· Accepting your past as a filled with experiences that are of benefit to you today

Of course we should always strive for being a better person, evolving in our careers, and reaching for bigger dreams but if you cannot say you are happy with yourself now, you can very easily fall into the belief that the grass is always greener on the other side. This creates a vicious circle of trying to achieve what you think will make things better, getting it and then discovering you are still not happy, thus setting your sites on something else and struggling all over again.

So how do you get contentment?

This is a journey, it usually does not happen overnight. You can move down that road to contentment by hiring coaches, counselors and other teachers and by self study, plus tapping into the spiritual and physical components of contentment. That is a big lot to choose from. So here are three specific steps to get you down that road:

1. Start a gratitude journal - every night before bed write down what you were grateful for that day. It can be as small as a eating a fantastic tasting strawberry. Get as many things written down as possible. You will find that after about a week or two your attitude will begin to be more positive about today and yesterday!

2. Select an area you struggle with and get help. If you struggle to enjoy your daily life because you have no energy, address the fact you need more energy by starting a workout program or eating healthier. Reach out to friends, family or paid help to get you on the right track; it is hard to change things alone. Accountability and a different prospective will take you further than you ever thought. The key to this step is the help part, get help today!

3. Give yourself time and love. Besides for my years of living a life based on personal growth it took me a full five years of actively pursuing contentment to actually find it. There were many times I wanted to give up, but I continually came back to the point that I loved myself and deserved contentment. You do too, so allow for time and love in your journey.

Is this journey easy? Not always but I promise it is always worth the journey. Striving for true contentment and everything else get easier - including money.

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