Happiness

Total Happiness - Why An Individual Cannot Achieve It

2010-02-27T22:18:00.003+07:00

It is quite obvious to witness an individual who is always looking at other than the right way to seek for total happiness. The right way is, there is no other way to total happiness, and total happiness is the only way.

That means, total happiness is growing inside each individual, and there, is the starting point for the individual to expand and extend this wonderful feeling, glowing outside himself or herself.

Even after knowing this vital and valuable information, there is still an individual continuously seeking for total happiness, elsewhere, everywhere, anywhere, no where, or other places as a way that is away from the correct way to total happiness.

While total happiness is readily available inside this individual, he or she is still facing in other directions outside, farther from the chance of obtaining genuine total happiness.

While seeking for total happiness, this individual attempts to strive. His or her opinion is that striving seems a sure way to obtain true total happiness. That means, the individual striving for total happiness requires any, a combination, or all of these: an immense quantum leap forward, a really hard work, a large amount of energy, a powerful pervasive force, and a strong struggling movement, or some efforts that are more difficult than these.

Yet, all these are unnecessary. The facts remain that an individual can obtain total happiness, instantly and immediately, now and here, at will, by simply making a decision to be totally happy, thus opting to choose total happiness, as a natural preference in this life.

Foregoing this fact, and instead pursuing for a fiction or a falsehood, this individual begins to wonder as a wanderer in this life by asking why is it so hard to achieve total happiness, especially at the times when this feeling is needed the most? After which, his or her pursuit consists of more struggles to seek for total happiness at various places, where total happiness does not exists nor being presence.

It is then extremely hard for this individual to achieve total happiness, because realize it or not, this individual is:

01) On the wrong path where total happiness is not available,

02) Feels like he or she must first climb a virtual or real mountain before actually achieving total happiness,

03) Moving on the correct path but become preoccupied on some other irrelevant activities, truly out of focus,

04) Just like wanting to be at a port in the mainland but he or she simply proceed into the sea during violent storms and against a clear vibrant tsunami.

In the end, this is the individual who feels he or she cannot obtain total happiness, because instead of being in charge of him self or her self, the individual lives a life in accordance to the swings of his or her incessant and spontaneous moods. This is an accepted impossibility.

The individual knows that there is a power within him or her. In addition he or she knows the possibility of accomplishing any goal toward total happiness, yet he or she does not proceed to know the door to total happiness. Yes, there is no other door to total happiness, and total happiness is the only door.

Even after knowing this information, and being the key holder to the door toward total happiness, yet the individual does not even begin to move and easily opening the door.

Yes, the individual knows the benefits of total happiness to him or her in this precious life. Be totally happy and being in total happiness first, then enjoys the benefits as the inevitable outcome of such a wonderful feeling. Yet the individual does not decide to be totally happy nor being in total happiness first.

Instead the individual proceeds to seek elsewhere, no where, anywhere, and everywhere for total happiness. Therefore, ultimately the individual becomes tired of searching and researching, despite total happiness is always available, always here, within the sanubari in his or her own heart.

This individual is seen in his or her attempts to obtain total happiness by doing exercises, trying to improve his or her mood swings, pretend to attain certain pleasure by eating chocolate, or even listening to music, or establishing a new friendship, pursuing to falling in love again, or joining an association, trying to developing a new hobby, or learning a new skill, go out of the way in helping others to find happiness that he or she cannot even find it himself or herself, and stoop low in faking a smile, or project a laughter, with the thinking that by doing so first, he or she can achieve authentic total happiness.

The facts remain that total happiness is independent. Yes, total happiness is not dependent upon a subject or an individual; an object or a position; a context that includes a circumstances, a condition, an event, a happenstance, or a situation.

For as long as this individual is seeking total happiness by doing some activities to obtain it, he or she can never obtain it.

Should an individual hajat for total happiness, then he or she can obtain total happiness, instantly and immediately, by willing to make a decision to be totally happy, and being in total happiness, now and here. In fact he or she is able to sustain total happiness by opting to choose it, as a natural preference throughout his or her life.

Zubli Zainordin is a professional public communicator. An established author in Malaysia, who has published 4 books in his native language. He is presently authoring - the wisdom of total happiness - for the English speaking market.

Zubli Zainordin is an Expert Ezine@rticles Author. Also, a consultant for the national book authoring project. Zubli Zainordin earned a M. Sc. in Communication - Radio/Television/Film from Indiana State University (Terre Haute, Indiana, USA), Diploma in Mass Communication from University Technology MARA, and Diploma in Translation - Technical and Science, from the National Translation Institute.

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In Pursuit Of Happiness

2010-02-27T22:18:00.001+07:00

A curious thing can happen when we discover a sudden change in personal circumstances such as a life threatening experience or a forced sudden and dramatic transformation in life style due to physical or economic circumstances. Some of these people who, be they relatives, friends, neighbours or people we hear about in the mass media, may have been living together, in an ongoing state of irritation with conflict and anger on virtually every issue surrounding their life together, can suddenly make dramatic shifts, quite readily, in their consciousness. What became a relationship consistently of conflict or anger that had suffocated their love and happiness for many years disappears, with their disagreements fading away and becoming insignificant and their love for one another, OR LIFE IT SELF, re-emerges as though it had never left.
What happens to cause this change of heart?

Quite simply, we don't know exactly how this sudden shift occurs or even when this kind of shift will occur. We do know that they exist and that they can and do occur. A sudden shift in awareness can occur in any area of human life that has to do with how we feel. Remember when you were much younger you probably believed in perhaps Fairies or fairy story characters or perhaps a more personalised manifestation such as a monster. At some point you realised what had been very real to you no longer existed as part of your reality. What was it that made you realise that these things were no longer real and that they or it, had only existed in your own mind? Why, at that particular time did this new level of understanding happen? Most of us go through these shifts in life. The imagined characters that seem real when we are young are predictable shifts but do vary greatly when the shift in our consciousness occurs. People have moments of autonomy, if only fleeting. Gaining the ability to achieve greater periods of sustained self-sufficiency is desirable as it enables you to become a whole person and enriched.

Shifts occur when we look at the same set of facts or scenario in a new way producing another insight or understanding.

Our ultimate concern or simply put our goal be it a shift or continuity or not, is what dictates control of our life and as a consequence our happiness. That ultimate concern determines other values, beliefs, associated goals, feelings, and actions.

When we make other people's approval our ultimate concern, then we make them our dominant force. We give up control of our lives and happiness. Seek your own approval not theirs. Let everyone have primary responsibility for his or her own happiness. Confusing "means" with "ends." It's not that having financial or career success cannot contribute to happiness. They obviously can contribute. But if one makes these means to happiness their end goals, then they become so focused upon the means that they may lose sight of the end happiness.

We do not have one ultimate concern, as most of us are far too diverse or disorganised or confused to be dedicated to what our most important value is or may be. We all owe allegiances to several valued concerns that constantly conflict with one another sometimes to our knowledge and at other times are simply not considered.

We have inner scuffles between our desires for success, love, friendship, security, fun, and contentment. Lack of integration among our higher values underlies much of our regular confusion and anxiety.

Some people are afraid that if they make their own happiness a primary goal in life, they will become, too self-indulgent. Happiness is probably the only human state that measures our overall physical and mental well being. It results from harmonising among our inner parts. We cannot deny important parts of ourselves and be fully happy. Happiness and love go hand-in-hand. Loving someone means we value his or her happiness. When we feel love, we feel happy, even if the love is for an object, an activity, or a person.

Responsibility follows control, so it follows that we are have greatest responsibility for our own happiness.

Why should someone else be more responsible for my happiness then I am-or vice-versa?

Have you ever been in a situation where no one will say what they really want and people are trying to make sure they please the other(s)? For example in trying to decide which restaurant to go to, one says,

"Where do you fancy to eating?"

"I don't care; what do you want to eat?"

This continues until both people become thoroughly frustrated. Is it not better if both people say what they want while considering the other's wishes?

How do you feel about other people being primarily in charge of your happiness?

How happy would you be if you sacrificed what you wanted so that you can give it up to someone else?

Do you feel more like doing something when you are doing it because you think you "should" or because you think it will make you happy?

Happiness is a moment-by-moment choice that each of us make. We must first choose to be happy and then make a commitment to that choice without changing anything in your life except your relationship with your own thinking. Do not confuse a commitment to happiness with a way to make life better in some way. This may seem strange at first but I am sure you can recall changes in your circumstances that have not lead to an improved level of happiness. Earning additional money, solving a problem, acquiring qualifications does not produce happiness. Happiness exists independently of your circumstances. Happiness is a feeling you can learn to live in.

Everything in your life is a consequence of the way you relate to your thinking. Commitment is an obligation and makes change much easier by removing uncertainty and anxiety and provides the freedom to let go of concerns as it fosters hope. Without commitment success in any venture is difficult. If you are dieting, stopping smoking, studying, starting a project or deciding to be happy, commitment is an important step. There is a great deal in life that is beyond your control. External circumstances touch us all, illness, accidents, other people's reactions and their choices, all impact upon us. Despite all this you can make a choice regardless of what happens to be happy unconditionally. Attaching happiness to an outcome will simply create the same mental process to each specific outcome. Believing that happiness will come once you are married then leads on for example to being happy once you have children which then creates new circumstances to develop a new desire to obtain happiness having achieved the goal. For example, perhaps when your children pass certain stages in life such as the terrible two's/ starting nursery/primary/secondary/sixth form/University/have a job/left home/get married is out the way, happiness will evolve and then you will be happy once you have enough money to meet the growing family needs. Believing that by solving our problems or improving our relationships will create contentment but this means that our happiness must be postponed until some future time when the preconditions are met. You may believe that you will one day arrive at a place, happiness but it will not be sustained without the decision to be happy. There is no way to happiness as happiness is the way if you are committed to the decision.

Your commitment to happiness itself should let go of all your preconditions. No matter how difficult it seems learn and practice the mental processes that will lead to happiness. Being happy isn't always easy. It can be one of the great challenges in life. Mature and take responsibility for your own happiness - right now. Understanding is the common sense of knowing something in the here and now and that our life experience comes from the inside out and not from the outside in.

You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself. Galileo

Focus on what you have and not on what you may lack. Commitment is the first step to bringing the future to the present.

The author claims no credentials or special qualifications, other than a compulsion to write what he cares about. The author's life has been marked by a generosity of spirit, by the vitality of his friendships, and by his personal struggles.

Is There A Substitute For Happiness?

2010-02-27T22:17:00.002+07:00

An Australian survey found that 77% of the people would prefer to be happy than wealthy. This begs the question: Were the wealthy people the ones who preferred to be happy rather than wealthy or the happy people those who are poor and do not want to lose their happiness by becoming wealthy.

The person who made mention of the article was promoting her forthcoming lecture about how to be happy. It was partly her claim that happiness is the next step after having achieved a degree of wealth. Basically she was saying that regardless of everything else the one thing human beings craved was happiness.

This woman went on to further claim that happiness itself was not the be all, to end all, because there were more important ideals in life like self-examination and then understanding the process of striving. The one thing people really did not need to do was strive for happiness because once you become happy, life suddenly becomes meaningless. There is nothing to live for any more. Effectively, she appeared to be saying, "Happiness is a state of nothingness where you become one with the nothing and have no need to exist anymore."

Personally, I have to disagree with this woman. Not because I have a different philosophy in life, but because I have obviously had a different experience in life. You see I am happy, but I am not nothing and I am have not ceased to exist. The reason I am happy is that having found out where happiness exists and I know how to live in happiness. I can enjoy life all the more without having to strive for something that I am not able to find.

That woman did not know what happiness was. She had not found happiness. She only has some philosophy which is nothing more than a reflection of her own sadness which she wants other people to come and participate in. It is like striving after wind, or like a dog trying to catch its tail and being having to be content with the fact it will always fail.

Contentment is like happiness in a way. But contentment is not happiness, because happiness is more active and energized than contentment. Only there is not a sense of urgency associated with happiness. What I experience is joy. A dynamic that adds spark to my day. Also I experience peace and another warm feeling that bathes my soul.

It is true that I am not striving anymore to find happiness. And it is true that I am more of the "live and let live" type. But it is also true that life is an adventure for me. Every day is a new day. Every day is a fun day. There is no need to deny myself pleasures any more, because I find pleasure in whatever I do. This is happiness. Happiness is not being in a state of nothingness. It is a feeling admittedly. It is a feeling of being at peace and having a love for all things that are good. But it is also energized with joy.

The suggestion that we cannot be happy and have a purpose or any meaning in our lives could only come from person who has not experienced true happiness. You see, the lecturer whom I am talking about claims happiness can only be a by product of a good life within a good society. However, I know happiness once found is real in any society. You or anybody else are able to experience the feelings of euphoria and bliss and inner warmth, if you truly desire to know the One who gives it.

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Happy First

2010-02-27T22:17:00.001+07:00

What is it that we are so afraid of? Why won't we let go?

A shark cannot rest, it cannot stop swimming or it will die, it will drown.

Humanity seems to be acting in the same manner. It is though we are running for our lives. We are being chased and if we stop we will die.

There is an urgency to get somewhere, anywhere, and we do not know what to look for or where, but it is always out there, somewhere.

Unknowingly we have left the place that we are looking for. From the inner peace that we experienced so long ago as children and as the person we once were. We seem to have lost our way and are running just for the sake of running. It is as though we are in a cattle stampede. One starts running and we are following blindly.

What happened to the peace, the serenity and joy of just being, what happened to our innocence? Somewhere along the way we believe that we have lost it, and that we cannot have it again. Someone told us to run and we haven't stopped.

The industrial revolution has pushed us forward in a frenzy to acquire things, the latest is always best, always desirable and it is the carrot that moves us beyond our means, away from what we really desire.

It has taken us away from our natural ability to be at peace, to be happy and content. 'Things,' have promised us happiness, but we do not feel happy when we have them. There is always a promise of happiness but never delivery. Things may be symbols of our happiness but they do not bring the promise with them, because there is another thing dancing in the shadows, calling to us, beckoning, luring us from one thing to another.

We are so far gone that we now believe that we cannot be happy unless we have a thing. We have forgotten how to be happy naturally without being stimulated. We have been told that we cannot go backwards; we cannot go back to the way it was before because we would not have our things.

This is one of the greatest lies that have been passed on from one generation to another. Happiness is where you find it we are told, and this is absolute true if we understand that we can find happiness anywhere if we are happy first. The thought of being happy brings happiness into our lives. Happiness comes from within and is not put upon us by things.

Unhappiness is created from the thought that we need something to be happy and this unhappiness comes from the very things that we are depending on to bring us happiness.

If illness, accidents, sorrow, suffering, lack and loneliness comes from an error in thought, then only the thought has to be changed in order to achieve the happiness, and once our basic needs are met, there is only room for happiness. When thoughts turn towards wants then they turn away from comforting human emotion, natural love, joy, pleasure, contentment and belonging. The simpler life is the closest we get to true happiness, because we become focused on it, it is what we think about and all thought becomes manifested in our experience.

"I can't go back, I won't, I worked too hard to get where I am and what I have; I won't live in a cave.

If all we really want is to be happy, why would we not live in a cave and live simply if it brings us back to happy. If we are heading in a direction that leads away from happiness, why do we keep going there? Is it that we are happy to be unhappy or that happiness does not really exist except in our thoughts? Is it that we believe that happiness does not last, so why pursue it? What is it that we do with the butterfly once we catch it? Is the happiness found in catching the butterfly or letting it go once we have been there, or is it both? Can we experience happiness without experiencing all its opposites? Is the joy of letting go a precept in experiencing happiness once we have found it? Must we turn away from happiness so that we may find it later? If we are happy and remain that way, will we forget what it means to be happy?

All of our experiences are this way, they are cyclical, and we cannot know what we have or experience it until we no longer have it. We must move away from it so that we can come back to it. So if living our complicated lives is not bringing the happiness that we choose, is it because we forgot what it is or are we now ready to return to it?

Is it that we are running from something or is it that we are now running towards it? The trip will stop when we know that we already have what we desire, we simply need to choose it. Happiness, joy, fulfillment, belonging are things that we do not have to look for. They are what we are naturally and we simply have moved our thoughts away from them.

Our things, our toys are symbols, but they are not symbols of happiness, they are symbols of trying to be happy. They are symbols that we have moved away from what we already have, what we know. In trying to make our lives easier so that we have "time," to be happy and enjoy our lives we have created less time to be happy. Happy is scheduled for events and things and then we are too tired. To numb our loss of the sense of happiness we drug ourselves so that we don't have to feel anything.

The truth is and always has been that we can be happy without "things," or doing anything. The sacrifice is that we have to give up on the notion that we need anything and we must be prepared to give up things that do not demonstrate our happiness. Happiness comes as quickly as thinking about it. Be happy first then go out and do things that represent happy to you. Happiness comes in the silent moments between events, when there is nothing left to do, when we have given up on finding it, and when we have done everything else. When we have given up on the notion that we have to find it, it finds us.

I don't know anyone that is happy all the time or even most of the time. I think happiness must be dessert. We have to go through the main course to find it. If dessert was the main course we would still move away from it once we had finished or had enough of it.

I believe that we can be happy all the time, but not experience it. As we get involved in doing the happy things we forget that we are happy until it enters our mind that we are happy. Too much happiness or dessert becomes irritating and mundane, like sex, you got to move away from it in order to appreciate it and be grateful for the times that you are experiencing it.

An emotion that comes from happiness is contentment, which is not as intense. But even contentment as happiness must be recycled. Life without extremes is none life. Life moves in waves and begins on the edge of all our emotions. Once you hand gets used to being in warm water, it is no longer appreciated as warm until you pull it out.

Once we let go of the thought that we will not longer experience happiness, then we will have time to focus on simply experiencing this emotion and it will be drawn into our lives. We won't have to do things to find it. Stop running, move away from the crowd, simplify your life become aware of your environment, learn to appreciate what is already around you and happiness will enter your thoughts always. Find the beauty in the simple rock, a blade of grass, or the people around you. You have created them, they are your wonders, and you brought them to you as opportunities to experience happiness.

Roy E. Klienwachter is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. A student of NLP, an ordained minister, New Age Light Worker and Teacher. Roy has written and published seven ebooks on New Age wisdom and a new book coming out in late 2005 in paper form. Roy's books are thought provoking and designed to empower you to take responsibility for your life and what you create. His books and articles are written in the simplicity and eloquence of Zen wisdom.

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Money Does Not Buy Happiness, Contentment Does

2010-02-27T22:16:00.000+07:00

Are you unhappy and just keep thinking if I could earn a bit more money everything would be fine? Tired of hearing the saying "money can't buy happiness"? I wish I could tell you that I am going to tell you that money can buy happiness, everyone else is wrong, but I can't. What I can tell you is that if you find contentment with what you have now when more money shows up it does help increase happiness. But first you must find the contentment.

When you are content money is cool, but not the end all be all. You spend differently, you invest differently. It is not about impressing others or gathering things. Don't get me wrong, money and things are cool, but when you are content you operate from a different place. You don't need to impress others or have more because you are happy with what you have. So your decisions on what to do with money come from a different place. According to Tom Stanley author of Stop Acting Rich a better indicator of happiness comes not from more income but on living on less than you make. I would guess that much of that has to do with those that live on less than they make are more content with life and thus spend money differently.

So what is contentment?

I consider contentment to be:

· Loving who you are today

· Loving what you have today

· Loving what you do today

· Accepting your past as a filled with experiences that are of benefit to you today

Of course we should always strive for being a better person, evolving in our careers, and reaching for bigger dreams but if you cannot say you are happy with yourself now, you can very easily fall into the belief that the grass is always greener on the other side. This creates a vicious circle of trying to achieve what you think will make things better, getting it and then discovering you are still not happy, thus setting your sites on something else and struggling all over again.

So how do you get contentment?

This is a journey, it usually does not happen overnight. You can move down that road to contentment by hiring coaches, counselors and other teachers and by self study, plus tapping into the spiritual and physical components of contentment. That is a big lot to choose from. So here are three specific steps to get you down that road:

1. Start a gratitude journal - every night before bed write down what you were grateful for that day. It can be as small as a eating a fantastic tasting strawberry. Get as many things written down as possible. You will find that after about a week or two your attitude will begin to be more positive about today and yesterday!

2. Select an area you struggle with and get help. If you struggle to enjoy your daily life because you have no energy, address the fact you need more energy by starting a workout program or eating healthier. Reach out to friends, family or paid help to get you on the right track; it is hard to change things alone. Accountability and a different prospective will take you further than you ever thought. The key to this step is the help part, get help today!

3. Give yourself time and love. Besides for my years of living a life based on personal growth it took me a full five years of actively pursuing contentment to actually find it. There were many times I wanted to give up, but I continually came back to the point that I loved myself and deserved contentment. You do too, so allow for time and love in your journey.

Is this journey easy? Not always but I promise it is always worth the journey. Striving for true contentment and everything else get easier - including money.

Andrea Travillian

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Forget Your Troubles, Get Happy

2010-01-23T03:20:00.000+07:00

During our recession, like the depression of the thirties, Hollywood is thriving. At that time, when nearly 25% of the workforce was jobless and wages fell almost 43%, escapist films were the most popular: The Wizard of Oz (1939), Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs (1937) and Gone with the Wind (1939). So also, today, we like escapist films. So far, the top three films this year are: a science fiction film, Transformers Revenge of the Fallen, another Harry Potter and UP, an animated film. As the lyrics of a song, popular in the thirties explains: "Forget your troubles, common get happy, chase all your blues away," at least for a while.

Although we are presently not as bad off as the thirties, our problems are more complex. America's failing schools, imploding financial system, growing poverty, environmental destruction and the takeover of government by big corporations requires fundamental change. Gearing up to fight the Second World War ended the Great Depression. The two wars we are fighting today are driving us deeper in debt.

The fundamental problem is that we are living at a time when our technology has created an environment on this planet that has never before existed; our former solutions to problems no longer work - they are what created our present dilemma. This is a period of transition between the end of the Industrial Age and the beginning of the new age of... who knows? The fundamental question for our times is: can we get smart enough, fast enough, to progress to another Age of Enlightenment - or will we regress to another Dark Age?

Positive or negative, change is stressful: losing a job or starting a new one, winning the lottery or losing your savings, are all stressful. Change is synonymous with uncertainty; like getting married, we can't know ahead of time, for sure, what the outcome will be. What we do know is that change we must, if we are to avert catastrophe - on a global scale. President Roosevelt brought America into WWII against great popular resistance. President Obama has accurately defined the problems we face and is carefully laying the groundwork for new solutions; the resistance he faces is formidable.

We cannot stop the world from changing; what we can change is how we respond to events. Instead of stress, we can respond with courageousness, calmness and peace. We are already on a roller coaster ride into an uncertain future;we can't get off, but we can enjoy the ride.

You, and only you, can change how you respond to life; if you are interested, quantum psychology tells you how. If you do the work, not only will you be able to enjoy life, exactly the way it is, but you will acquire the open mind that is needed to create new ideas, nudge events in the direction of social progress - and go to the movies.

Since childhood, Jean's quest has been the search for knowledge, which is synonymous with power. Her intent is to empower individuals looking to jump start their psychological evolution and achieve higher consciousness. Her book, The Greatest Escape: Travel the Quantum Path to Personal Freedom, providers readers with the theory underlying two quantum personal growth techniques, which produce immediate results, without talking about problems. Plenty of colorful pictures enhance the learning and make the book fun to read. More information can be found at http://www.quantumboyd.com

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Trying Too Hard May Be the Single Barrier to Your Experience of Happiness

2010-01-23T03:19:00.003+07:00

I promise you if you have been working hard on manifesting your dreams, you are probably a thin veil away from watching it come into existence. The space for its existence is likely the only missing element. Later you will get very clear that what you are looking for matters greatly. A person who has been working for years, seemingly going round and round trying to make something happen is not 'expecting' that today is going to be drastically different than yesterday. What's missing is the space and when you are clear about what that is, you can create as much as you like. Let's look at why trying too hard is resistance and not space creating.

Some people I know seem to have no reason to be less than happy, and if they weren't trying so hard to be happy they might discover they already were. By staying in this mode called 'I haven't arrived yet' not only prevents one from experiencing happiness and joy of the moment, it also inhibits their opportunity to ride the next wave. Much of this has to do with not being able to recognize that what one is seeking is the experience of life and not the appearance of life. Things are not fixed, they are brought into existence first at the level of energy and it grows into physical form. Everything you have ever desired exists at one level or another, but they are always alive the conception of the idea. The things you have been working on are alive already.

Happiness and joy is a state of freedom, pure space and a condition of no resistance. We are naturally seeking better feeling emotions and this is a path necessary for life expansion. The trap is to fail to recognize that unless you give up the notion that you are not already happy you will believe something outside and separate from you is the source of it. If you have 'money problems' and you say you can not be happy until you have money, then it would be better to work on being happy and the money will come.

Energy precedes everything in the physical universe, even your thoughts. Unless you can experience being happy exactly where you are, you are saying you are not happy, and that is what you get, instantaneously. The moment you let go of the tight grip you have on that emotion, releasing it with the intent to feel better, even just a little bit better, you create the space for the circumstances to change. The bottom line is, being in a place of happiness is a path of least resistance for the movement for like thoughts to easily move towards one another.

The more happiness and joy you notice you are experiencing the more becomes available to you. Only a small portion of your time on earth has been unhappy. Shine light there and on what is to come. There is a difference in experiencing it and acknowledging that you had something to do with it. It is like those individuals who never get their own beauty and are always trying to improve upon it. They don't get to enjoy it as they are continually in the mode, of being less than what they desire. Or the ballplayer that has tremendous talent but comes from the point of view that he or she is not good enough or capable enough.

One way to see this is to know that your experience of the energy force in your life is ongoing and never ending. What you are calling forth in your experience is adding to what is formulating and soon to be in the physical appearance of life. It may not seem that way to you but at one level it is pure physics. To think that you don't matter is to fail to recognize that without you, the deliberate intention to focus attention could not be. Knowing you are alive is something privy to you.

Focusing awareness on the intelligence of our higher self is worthwhile. It knows even when you forget. Your actions speak to your intent and your higher self moves to bring life to what you are giving attention. So if your actions suggest that you do not feel you have arrived yet, the appearance of life will validate your perception and you can not experience otherwise. To understand that at every instance you are receiving what you have attention on can be beyond your comprehension, but when you can see that things come into existence from a place of energy first, you see that all along the way all that you have been asking for through your actions will remain in non-physical form until it manifests.

You attract what you give attention to and though you may not recognize it as your intention, it never the less is. What you expect, as in your fixed expectations, is what you look for, consciously or not. You intend to find what you are looking for and it is always fits in your expectations. You can however deliberately choose better feeling thoughts about any subject.

As soon as you realize what you want is created and has been building itself by attracting likeness, you will realize it needs the space in which to grow. This is partly what was meant by the action of resting on the seventh day. This is more relevant than you can imagine. Let the fruits of your desire unfold according to the natural brilliance of the universe. Give it the space of no resistance, the space of allowing it to be, just as we do the seeds after planting them. Appreciate it for its divine nature. Feel the idea of letting go and letting it grow. Allow yourself some space to let your higher self do the job.

If you see something here in this article that inspires you, continue to gather for yourself more on the law of attraction. Abraham-Hicks is the leading source on this subject. In addition, you can search me on Amazon or the internet for the practical applications of the law of attraction. Remember, the key is to seek happiness and joy in all situations and circumstances.

Leon Michael Cautillo, Author/Instructor

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Happiness - How Can You Measure It?

2010-01-23T03:19:00.001+07:00

Want to know how to measure your happiness level? Wouldn't you like to know when your life is actually moving you toward your dreams?

Sometimes you move forward but fail to notice your progress. Your goals seem so far away that you just do not notice the small steps each day-the steps that do move you toward Your Very Excellent Life.

I developed a series of teachniques (not a typo - what I call my teaching methods) that empower you to make your life work in ways you can clearly measure.

When I work with people on a 1:1 basis I start out looking at a client's values and priorities using my teachnique Values-Priorities-Direction VPD. Next step is formulating goals and affirmations that work (as opposed to how most gurus teach them) using my teachnique Personal Meaning Quotient (PMQ).

You then need a way to measure your happiness level so you can tell when you feel better and your life works more easily. To accomplish that end I developed the Personal Happiness Quotient (PHQ), basically a way to measure your level of happiness across your life.

Why would anyone want a way to measure abstract concepts like life values and happiness? In business the simple answer is that you can control what you can measure. Makes sense for your personal life too. I want you to stop and think about this for a moment. You know you are not happy about a particular relationship.

What if you could determine just how unhappy you are and set yourself a goal of increasing that level in 6 weeks?

Knowing you want to meet your goals you can now take specific actions to boost your happiness in exactly the areas that will complete the picture making a happier you.

With a means to measure your progress you can see if you are on track or need to put in extra effort to meet your own deadline.

STOP! Are you about to give up the life changes that will let you be happy forever?

If you can't be happy when you are alone with yourself, what chance do you have of being happy in a relationship? Go to http://LiveInHappinessNow.com/ebook.html and grab my Special Report: 45 Tips: How To Live In Happiness Now. And remember... Don't give up hope... You deserve to be happy

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Why It's Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood

2009-12-17T01:09:00.001+07:00

This is not an article about how to have the happy childhood you missed out on by bonding with your children and experiencing a new childhood along with them, although that's a great thing to do. If you have children, I recommend it.

Nor is it an article about getting in touch with your inner child and spending time with her or him every day, doing some of your favorite childhood things, in essence nurturing your inner child and so forth. Although there's great value in that kind of approach as well.

This is about a cutting edge development in emotional healing. A development that allows you to literally overwrite traumatic and unpleasant childhood experiences with new memories - memories of how it would have been if you could change it.

The method is called Matrix Reimprinting, and it was developed by Karl Dawson, an EFT Master in the UK.

Of course you can't change history, what actually objectively happened. But you can change the energetic imprint that is still held in your energy field. With classic EFT/MTT (Emotional Freedom Techniques/Meridian Tapping Techniques) you neutralize the emotional charge on traumatic or upsetting memories, and that's how you eliminate the undesired phobias, fears, physical and emotional symptoms that stemmed from those events.

What Dawson found is that at the time of a trauma, a part of our psyche literally freezes and is permanently stuck in the event. This part of the psyche is called an "ECHO" or Energy Consciousness Hologram. For that part of our subconscious, that ECHO, it is always in the "now" of that event whether it happened days or decades ago. With this Matrix Reimprinting, we can even interact with ECHOs from the time before we have conscious memory, to the crib or even pre-birth to the womb.

Our ECHO is actually trying to protect us from being hurt again. He or she may resist every attempt to wipe out the coping mechanism she or he developed, be it physical or emotional symptoms, because his or her view it's not safe to do so. This is why sometimes tapping techniques and other energy therapies either may not work, may not last, or may take a long time to achieve permanent results.

With Matrix Reimprinting, we can now go directly to the ECHO, interact with her or him, and bring him or her to a safe place where healing naturally occurs. As part of the healing, we can literally reimprint a new, desirable and empowering memory. Then there is no longer any need for whatever strategy he or she came up with to cope, because there is now no need to cope.

I experienced this astonishing, powerful yet powerfully gentle experience myself as part of my practitioner training.

Astonishing, because what seems to begin in the imagination takes on a very real reality as the process unfolds. The ECHO will tell you how he or she feels, and what she or he needs to have happen to bring about a healing. Often, an ECHO will send you to an earlier ECHO, which might send you to an earlier one and so on.

Powerful, because as part of my own experience I reimprinted a new memory on an event that occurred when I was seven years old. My mind now just automatically tunes into the positive energy of the reimprinted "new" memory.

Gentle, because it was my seven year old ECHO that came up with the solution that was effective. There was no forcing, no pushing of an unwanted solution. It was the ECHO's own solution, so it was accepted easily and effortlessly. All I and my practitioner partner did was facilitate the process.

With Matrix Reimprinting it's literally never too late to have a happy childhood. It's a powerful method to eliminate trauma that few, if any other methods can touch as effectively.

For more information, go to: http://theweboflight.com/paGE6.HTML
You might also be interested in my blog: http://gentlehealingtouch.blogspot.com/

Dr. Webb is a Holistic Life Coach, creator of The Web of Light Holistic Coaching System, and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner. He is a board certified Holistic Health Practitioner, and he is trained in advanced MTT. He is a Certified Reiki Master, an ordained minister, and a certified chaplain. Dr. Webb holds a Master's Degree in Metaphysics from the University of Metaphysics and a Doctor of Divinity from the American Institute of Holistic Theology.

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The Secret for Fun

2009-12-13T07:43:00.002+07:00

I choose to be happy everyday no matter how bad I felt or how difficult the situation may be especially after I have made the Law of Attraction as part of my life. Every time I wake up in the morning I told myself that I am going to have a wonderful day even just seeing the sun shine outside my window because endorphins are naturally released and a "feel good" sensation spreads throughout my body. If it's not enough I go out for a 30 minutes drive outside the village to commune with nature because this is something that is associated with peaceful, balance, and tranquility.

Alternatively, gardening is associated with relaxation and enjoyment and it also relieves me from stress, so I do that once or twice a week. Having fun doesn't only mean you have to spend money on an expensive holiday. There are various ways you can have fun without having to spend anything. Having fun is a state of mind so either you enjoy it or you don't. Try to do something that you like and enjoy, go out, meet people, or start a conversation.

I always take time to unwind by watching movies after a day's work and it helps me relax and have some fun time that's why I have over 500 movie and television series collections. Laughing also creates a spontaneous endorphin release, that's why I also like to watch 'Americas Funniest Home Videos' to add to the feel-good factor because I know that we all have a natural instinct to laugh and have fun but growing up and becoming responsible adults often causes this instinct to dim but that instinct is still there, just waiting to be set free.

There's also nothing like singing the blues and stressors away because it helps you relax and feel good. Why don't you try to throw away restraint and responsibility and intentionally pretend that you are seeing everything around you for the first time and you will notice how good you feel. Alternatively, why not use your imagination to picture yourself in a wonderful place and hold on to that thought as long as you can and you will enjoy the endorphin release as you imagine.

Learn more about Mastering the Law of Attraction by visiting http://www.thesecretoflifebydesign.com.

Janet Grace Ortigas is a freelance writer and online blogger.

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Practice Being Happy

2009-12-13T07:43:00.001+07:00

There are people who depends their happiness to situations or to things saying that if they got money, if they meet the right person, if they have good health and be able to travel the world they would be happy. The problem with living your life this way is that you will never be truly happy because nothing will ever fill the hole of dissatisfaction inside your mind.

We can all have happiness because it is a state of mind and the key to happiness is to nurture your mind with positive thoughts. And since we are constantly bombarded with negativity, it is sometimes difficult to stay positive. But you can turn this around by training your conscious and subconscious mind to only accept positive thoughts and impulses because this will attract wonderful opportunities.

Smile at people around you and you'll see how infectious it is and whatever belief you want to follow, it is undeniably true that happiness breeds more happiness. Watch funny films because a good laugh will help you put your life into perspectives. Forget the past because there is nothing you can do to change what already happened. Choose to be happy no matter how bad the situation is and never blame someone else when something goes wrong. My brother always told me to 'build bridges not walls' because only through relationships can we love and be loved so make it your top priority.

Be true to yourself and don't promise anything you can't keep even to yourself so that you will be in peace. Develop multiple passions so that you will have endless streams of exciting things to create new happiness. Be yourself, find what matters you most and always count your blessings because it is easy to be happy if you are grateful and you will soon see that you have many reasons to be happy. Try to find positive things in any situation to help you with your quest for happiness. Remember that happiness is a state of mind we can all achieve so why don't you try it today.

Learn more about Mastering the Law of Attraction by visiting http://www.thesecretoflifebydesign.com.

Janet Grace Ortigas is a freelance writer and online blogger.

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Live In Happiness

2009-12-13T07:42:00.001+07:00

When you live in happiness integrity naturally flows smoothly through your life. Being your word is the only option for people who love themselves. To live otherwise would dishonor and disrespect one's own being.

Do you know anyone who tells you (and everybody else they know) they are going to accomplish some task ABC by day X-only day X comes and goes without task ABC being done? And year after they keep telling people they will do project after project for them-but nothing ever happens?

How do you feel when you hear that person say they will get it done for you? Do you believe them? Do you trust them to keep their word? Do you trust them in any area of life?

People who live without integrity have no problem telling others they will do various tasks. In fact, they may volunteer for so many tasks that others think they are super human, amazing producers-until they see that nothing gets done at all.

Living with integrity in every moment of every day may be beyond human possibility, Yet if you do not stride to do your best at all times and live in your truth then you will be out of integrity more often than not.

What are simple ways people move out of integrity? They arrive late for appointments-and do not call to say they will be late. Of course some people are consistently late, not intending to be on time. Yet they make appointments for which others show up at the appointed time.

Perhaps the worst slip-ups in the realm of keeping your word happen when people fail to keep the promises they make to themselves. Maybe they tell themselves they will stop eating once they are full or they will begin their next exercise program tomorrow-but tomorrow never comes.

If you cannot keep your word with yourself, how can you expect to keep your word with others? Living in happiness and integrity go together. Make it a perfect match for you too.

By the way, do you want to learn more about how you can live in happiness now?

If so, download my brand new free ebook 45 Tips To Live In Happiness Now here: http://liveinhappinessnow.com/ebook.html

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How To Be Happier

2009-12-13T07:40:00.000+07:00

Am I really the happiest man on the planet? Then how can I tell you how to be happier?:)

But there's this one interesting thing I have noticed. And whenever I have done this one thing, I have been happier.

This thing is - to stop thinking about what I should do and start thinking about what I really want.
Not very clear is it? I'll tell you some tit bits from my life - when I replaced "should" with "want" and became happier.

How to be Happier - The First Event

Long ago in January, 2007, I was majoring in Paper technology and career was the first thing on my mind. "What should I do after I finish college?" was the big question. "Should I " do an MS in chemical engineering? "Should I" go for a job?

My mental state: muddled and unhappy.

In June 2007, a thought crossed my mind - "What if I stop asking what I should be doing and ask myself what I really, truly want to do? What if it was NOT compulsory that I "should do" an MS or an MBA?

Suddenly I felt light! I still remember that moment - when I allowed myself to think about what I really wanted and instantly felt happier!

I had this vision about writing and blogging and anchoring quizzes and debates a few times a month. I felt amazing!

As soon as I allowed myself to think of what I wanted to do - I felt good!

Thankfully, today I am much happier writing on this website than I was when I thought I "should do" an MS in chemical engineering.

How to be Happier - The Second Event

Another peculiar event happened recently.

Now I was writing on this website, but somehow I was still feeling bad somewhere. I mean, I should have felt nice writing right - doing what I wanted - then why that sinking feeling?

So I looked at my home page. And I saw ornamental words like "This site will allow you to conquer anger and face your fears." I looked at some other pages - they were like - "This is how you should act, this is how you should think" Huh? All this was crap I thought I "should write" on my site - not what I really wanted to.. What I really wanted to do was to genuinely share whatever I learnt as I lived my life - along with my faults and failings. Something to the tune of - "Hey, I learnt this today, isn't that cool? You could try it too!"

So I revamped each page on this site and removed what I thought I "should write." Then I wrote exactly what I wanted to. In one moment, I felt so much more happy! I was suddenly doing something I loved so much more!

Now the interesting thing is: in both the cases above when I felt happier - I stopped doing what I thought "I should do" and asked myself - "what do I really want"?

What About You?

Let's take a peek at your life. Is there something you are doing that you "should do"? Are you working at your job - because you "should be"? Are you in your relationship because you "should be"?

NOW - ask yourself - what do you really, truly want? Suppose you were permitted to do anything you wanted? Suppose you could leave this job and NOT do what others were doing? What would you want?

Ask yourself this.

No, don't quit your job or relationship or revamp your life after reading this. (As if you will!:) ) But will you make me a promise? Today, tomorrow and the day after - whenever you notice the thought - "I should be doing this" - will you replace it with - "what do I want?" Like if you are going to college - will you ask yourself - "Why am I going? Is it because I should go? What do I want to do?"

Here's my guarantee: As soon as you replace "I should" by "what do I want?" - you'll be happier.

Now we know how to be happier! May we rock the world replacing "should" by "want". Tata!

Meghashyam Chirravoori is basically someone like you but with an unreasonable passion for exploring living more. He's written more about his tryst with happiness (+ unhappiness!) and ways to be happy here. He writes regularly about other things he learns at http://www.personal-development-is-fun.com. Copyright - Do republish this article wherever you want, but please publish everything as it is, including this author description and the active links.

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